God’s Marvelous Plan for Sex
I know I am getting old when I see a new generation that is so very different from any that we have known. When I was a young person, I can remember folks my age saying often, “It was sure not like this when I was young”. I find myself saying that same phrase with more frequency than ever before. Almost every area of life in the 21st century has shifted on its foundation. One of the most notable is our lack of faith and respect for faith in God. When that is diminished, every other area of life will be greatly affected and not in a positive manner. Truly, when our relationship with God is lost, relationships with each other are in grave danger. The sexual revolution is a perfect manifestation of what results when all boundary lines are faded.
Where at one time, having sexual relations outside marriage was considered “liberating”, current studies show that it damages one’s ability to trust, affecting future relationship, one’s respect for self, affecting every decision and diminishing the value of right decisions, and one’s respect for health. “Liberating?” At what cost?
Some years ago, Drs. Freda Bush and Joe McIlhaney released a study at Harvard University that showed that exposure to immorality and participation in sexual acts during childhood years actually changes the brain, interrupting the normal production and usage of dopamine, vasopressin and oxytocin in the brain for the remainder of the life.
These chemicals, when released properly, create the “monogamy syndrome”, in that moment bonding the person to another. If this occurs outside of marriage, that moment of bonding never fully takes place, even after marriage. According to the study, “That bonding, which acts like adhesive tape or Velcro, is weakened when people tear away at its power by breaking off with a sexual partner and moving on from one to another to another. So when it does finally come time to bond permanently with a spouse, the ability to bond is damaged. The brain actually gets molded to not accept that deep emotional level that’s so important for marriage. When they do marry, they’re more likely to have a divorce than people who were virgins when they got married.”
Other studies reported by American Journal of Preventive Medicine, reveal that there are significant physical and emotional changes in unmarried people who have sex, as well as in married people who have sex outside marriage. This is not to discount the spiritual changes in these people which affects so much of a person’s core values in life.
The Bible is relevant concerning the building blocks of a strong, supportive, fulfilling family life, although some have misrepresented what it is teaching through the years. One of those building blocks is entering into the most important human relationship of choice with the ability to commit fully, and much further than you have ever committed to another in your life. Purity before marriage is now seen as a crucial part of that. This is something many will miss out on because the deemed the Bible irrelevant to themselves. (copied).