Patience is in short supply. The many stresses that people are experiencing leave them feeling tense and therefore, having little flexibility for processing the irritating moments that are a part of every day. The things that would normally be so insignificant that we would laugh at the situation if we were not under such pressure can become flash points of harsh reactions that are later embarrassing for us and perhaps wound others because of words spoken in anger. Recently, I read an article about anger that I found very insightful. Maybe you will too…..
Anger is an emotion that can range from mild annoyance to intense rage. It is a feeling that is accompanied by biological changes in your body. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure rise and stress hormones are released. This can cause you to shake, become hot and sweaty and feel out of control. When people have angry feelings, they often behave in angry ways too. Angry behaviors include yelling, throwing things, criticizing, ignoring, storming out, and sometimes withdrawing and doing nothing.
Why do we get angry? Anger is often associated with frustration – things don’t always happen the way we want and people don’t always behave the way we think they should. Anger is usually linked with other negative emotions or is a response to them. You may be feeling hurt, frightened, disappointed, worried, embarrassed or frustrated, but may express these sorts of feelings as anger. Anger can also result from misunderstandings or poor communication between people.
Men and women often, but not always, manage and express anger in different ways. With men, anger may be the primary emotion, as many men believe that anger is the more legitimate emotion to express in a situation. Often men find it harder to express the feelings underneath the anger, like hurt, sadness or grief. For women the reverse may often be true – the anger gets buried under tears.
Anger IS an indication of what is going on inside of us, but Paul warns: “In your anger, do not sin.” We often may feel that our emotion gives us license to act out. Some of us may even feel like venting is a good thing. We go off in a fit of rage, leaving a trail of destruction behind. We may vent our anger and feel better for a moment, but we soon regret the outburst and grieve over things said or actions taken. (Copied).
God made us to feel things deeply. When we love, we love intensely and those that we love know of our diligence to make them feel how very special they really are. When we lose someone we love in death, we grieve with such passion that people can go days without sleeping and eating. The depth of their grief is seemingly unrelenting.
The emotions we were given by God were giving to honor Him. Anger is also a gift from God when it is harnessed by His righteousness. In the hands of God, it is not used as a method of demonstrating our frustration. Rather, it is the means to demonstrate that we are not happy over sin, rebellion, and rejection of God. Anger that is harnessed to apply resistance to evil is a persistent weapon against unrighteousness. That is anger “management” by Divine Design!