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First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage

Every new year, our culture encourages us to make and “keep” resolutions that will improve our spiritual and physical health, relationships, educational training, financial disciplines, job performance, and our home life.  All of those things are important. All have their unique challenges that so often prevent us from fulfilling what we set out to do.  Each of the things that we resolve to do are good things.  One of the areas that is the most persistent because it is “ever present is seeking to ever improve family life.

Perhaps it is so challenging because we want “home” to be perfect.  It is not.  We want children that are constantly so conscientious that some would think them to be without faults.  They are not.  We think of ourselves as the consummate example of being the example of what a mate and parent should be.  That is just not the case (ask your spouse for verification and to be humbled!).

We sometimes have to view family life through the lens of humor to keep from being discouraged by what reality is in too many households.  Do any of these sound like your place?

To prove his love for her, he swam the deepest river, crossed the widest desert and climbed the highest mountain. She divorced him. He was never home. (Rose Sands, The Saturday Evening Post).

Who can ever forget Winston Churchill’s immortal words: “We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills.” It sounds exactly like our family vacation.  (Robert Orben).

An exhaustive study shows that no woman has ever shot her husband while he was doing the dishes.  (Earl Wilson).

A woman was at home doing some cleaning when the telephone rang. In going to answer it, she tripped on a scatter rug and, grabbing for something to hold onto, seized the telephone table. It fell over with a crash, jarring receiver off the hook. As it fell, it hit the family dog, who leaped up, howling and barking. The woman’s three-year-old son, startled by this noise, broke into loud screams. The woman mumbled some colorful words. She finally managed to pick up the receiver and lift it to her ear, just in time to hear her husband’s voice on the other end say, “Nobody’s said hello yet, but I’m positive I have the right number.”  (James Dent, Charleston, W.Va., Gazette).

Solomon wrote a word of instruction to his son 3000 years ago in the book of Proverbs….My son, don’t forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commands; for they will bring you many days, a full life, and well-being. Never let loyalty and faithfulness leave you.  Tie them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart.  Then you will find favor and high regard in the sight of God and man.  Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; think about Him in all your ways, and He will guide you on the right paths. My son, don’t forget my teaching, Don’t consider yourself to be wise; fear the Lord and turn away from evil. This will be healing for your body and strengthening for your bones.  Honor the Lord with your possessions and with the first produce of your entire harvest; 10 then your barns will be completely filled, and your vats will overflow with new wine.  11 Do not despise the Lord’s instruction, my son, and do not loathe His discipline; 12 for the Lord disciplines the one He loves, just as a father, the son he delights in.  (Prov.3:1-12).