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I’m Mr. Lonely……..Nobody to Call My Own

Loneliness is pandemic.  Social media is filled with folks longing to be heard, recognized, and loved.  Places where the “trendy” hang out are frequented by many who would love to connect with someone to end their loneliness.  Bars and clubs draw folks seeking to find a friend. Nursing homes, care centers, hospitals, churches, schools, and neighborhoods are populated by lonely people.  Some have been isolated for so long, they are wary of anyone seeking to be friendly.

The causes for such “aloneness” are many.  Hurts, disappointments, assaults that leave a victim afraid of everybody, shyness, insecurities… the list is lengthy. Whatever the cause, the pain is intense.  The wound of a life lived without a meaningful relationship(s) aches.  It is in critical need of remedy.  The key to unlock the door to a vibrant interaction regularly with others is hidden deep in the soul of the person reluctant to attempt to try again to have a real friend.

In the New Testament, there was a tax collector who was hated by everybody for his extortion of townspeople in the amount he took from his neighbors.  He was a Jew collecting money for the Romans that were oppressing the Jews.  Zacchaeus heard that the popular Rabbi was coming to Jericho.  He longed to see Him.  He made his way to the suspected route that Jesus would take to enter the city.  Because he was not a tall man and because no one wanted him to stand near them, he climbed a Sycamore tree hoping to see Jesus.

How stunned he was when Jesus came directly to the foot of his tree. Jesus called him by name, told him to “Come down, for I am going to your house today!”  What a shock!  No one ever wanted to be a guest of Zacchaeus.  Jews believed prostitutes would enter heaven before tax collectors.  The crowd was stunned that a Rabbi would make it known He planned to eat at the table of such a “lonely”, isolated, despicable sinner.  Zacchaeus did come down and it was the best thing that he ever did.  His loneliness was about to end.  This one that had been hated, was now changed by Jesus and gave back to those he had cheated all that he owed them and more. It is amazing how Jesus can change one’s life, loneliness, and outlook in “only a moment”!

“We have drugs for people with diseases like leprosy. But these drugs do not treat the main problem, the disease of being unwanted. That’s what my sisters hope to provide. The sick and poor suffer even more from rejection than material want. Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”  (Copied).

Armand M. Nicholi, M.D., a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School some years ago, explained that Sigmund Freud died at the age of 83, a bitter and disillusioned man. Tragically, this Viennese physician, one of the most influential thinkers of our time, had little compassion for the common person. 

Freud wrote in 1918, “I have found little that is good about human beings on the whole. In my experience most of them are trash, no matter whether they publicly subscribe to this or that ethical doctrine or to none at all” (Veritas Reconsidered, p. 36).

Freud died friendless. It is well-known that he had broken with each of his followers. The end was bitter.  (Copied).