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“A housed divided cannot stand”. (Matt.12:25). The animosity is deep.  Daily, the hatred between groups with different views continues to grow more vitriolic.  Consider the vast numbers of things that divide us…ethnicity, religious beliefs, political persuasions, and even our favorite sports team choices.  Division ever grows more intense because constantly we are confronted by something that “that other group” said about us.  Rather than ignoring inflammatory remarks, most often they are quickly posted to a social media outlet.  Suddenly, those “for and against” that remark begin a posting frenzy to vent their support of anger.

Since we no longer live by the precepts of God’s Word, we have long forgotten that Scripture gives many insights into how to diffuse strife and seek peace with others.  Consider:  Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.   Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  (Eph.4:31-32).   Of course, we are very familiar with the other approach…….


  1. Be sure to develop and maintain a healthy fear of conflict, letting your own feelings buildup so you are in an explosive frame of mind. 
  2.  If you must state your concerns, be as vague and general as possible. Then the other person cannot do anything practical to change the situation. 
  3.  Assume you know all the facts and you are totally right. The use of a clinching Bible verse is helpful. Speak prophetically for truth and justice; do most of the talking. 
  4. With a touch of defiance, announce your willingness to talk with anyone who wishes to discuss the problem with you. But do not take steps to initiate such conversation. 
  5. Latch tenaciously onto whatever evidence you can find that shows the other person is merely jealous of you. 
  6. Judge the motivation of the other party on any previous experience that showed failure or unkindness. Keep track of any angry words. 
  7. If the discussion should, alas, become serious, view the issue as a win/lose struggle. Avoid possible solutions and go for total victory and unconditional surrender. Don’t get too many options on the table. 
  8. Pass the buck! If you are about to get cornered into a solution, indicate you are without power to settle; you need your partner, spouse, bank, whatever. (Copied)