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What Can I Say?

The time comes when it is hard to have something to say that fits the occasion or the person that is listening for a kind word.  No matter how much a person likes to talk, there are those moments when words are not readily available.

What do you say when a tragedy has just taken the life of a teenager and you want to comfort the broken-hearted parents?  What words are truly adequate to express your love for your mate that has been faithful, steadfast, and consistently compassionate for a lifetime?  How can a mom tell her son that is leaving for a military assignment overseas the depth of her concern and her longing to see him home again?

Seems strange that humans spend hours daily either talking or listening to thousands of words filling the air around them.  Yet, in certain critical moments, it is as if every conceivable word has disappeared from our memory bank that would be appropriate. The fear of public speaking is higher than the fear of death in surveys.  So, that would mean that just being in front of a group for any reason to say anything is heart-stopping fear for most folks.

Then, there are those times that a person is asked to be a reference for someone.  99% of the time, it is a privilege because the one asking is a fine person that is known to be conscientious, responsible, and admirable. However, it is hard to have something good to say is when the person asking for a reference is not dependable, congenial, or consistent in their work ethic.

Here is an example of what one person did in responding to a request for a reference for a person that was less than adequate for the desired job ….

Robert Thornton, professor of economics at Lehigh University, once composed the ideal letter to fit the situation:

I am pleased to say that this candidate is a former colleague of mine. In my opinion you will be fortunate to get this person to work for you. I recommend him with no qualifications whatsoever.  No person would be better for the job. I urge you to waste no time in making this candidate an offer of employment. All in all, and without reservation, I cannot say enough good things about him, nor can I recommend him too highly.  (Copied).

Paul wrote about being responsible so that we are productive and unashamed…. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows   8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.  9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.  10 Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.  (Gal.6:7-10).