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My dad was a wise man.  He was a pastor for over 50 years and then served in leadership roles on mission fronts on Hawaii and Alaska.  He taught me many things… pragmatic, theological, family, and social skills that have helped me greatly in life.  When I was still very young in the ministry, I would call him to ask “what would you do if…” questions.  Most often, it was when someone had told me how they just wanted to “help me” and “if I was open to doing the right thing”, I would heed what they were about to tell me. 

Some of the suggestions were so shallow, I knew it was not what I should or would do.  Some were helpful, and as you would suspect, some were caustic.  The caustic counsel came most often from a person that had lots of unresolved issues themselves. I have discovered that those folks who are up to the eyeballs in conflict and confusion are quick to offer advice to others. My father gave me great advice for what to do with “unsolicited advice” from cranks.  He told me, “Advice comes from many sources.  Most of the time, advice is worth what you pay for it.”  I have had lots of free advice that was overpriced!

There is more info available today than ever before.  Social media, television, entertainers, and friends are frequent dispensers of opinions.  Because our minds are like sponges, we quickly absorb anything that we see, hear, or read.  The more we glean from outlets that may not be accurate and delight in the fact that they are not, the farther we get from wise insight into the real issues of life.

One of those areas where advice is at flood stage and just about as helpful is in issues regarding dating, marriage, the family, and commitment.  Voices that claim to be authorities have counsel that is all over the place.  No wonder teens live in confusion about getting married and having a family.  Many teens today have not ever had a Biblically designed home life growing up.  Because of divorce or death, the surviving mate may opt not to marry, but rather to have “live-in” companions for a time until they decide they want a different “live-in”. 

Young couples get their examples for marriage from their home life, movies, television, rock stars, actors/actresses, and their peers.  The impact of that is a generation that is adrift on learning how to love with dedication and honor.  The One who designed marriage gave us a manual.  The Bible’s teachings are timeless and would serve any “husband and wife” well in shaping their home around its precepts.  The plans God has for His children is splendid.  G.K. Chesterson wrote, “Christianity has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and not tried.”

A young husband was henpecked and was going to a psychiatrist about the problem. The doctor told him, “You don’t have to let your wife bully you! Go home and show her you’re the boss! The young man got home, slammed the door, shook his fist in his wife’s face, and growled, “From now on, you’re taking orders from ME! When I get home from work, I want my supper ON the table. I want my clothes LAID OUT. I will be going out with the boys. You will be staying home. And another thing. Do you know who’s going to tie my tie?”

“Yes,” she said: “The undertaker.”    Plan your strategy: don’t rely on the advice of the world to Bring peace into your home. (Source Unknown).